It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
C. S. Lewis
This seems like the ideal time to talk about change. This site is a transition from a previous one I ran. After a great deal of thought, I decided to change the name and re-brand the entire site to better fit my target audience and my own knowledge base. It is also the beginning of fall, the season of change, so I figure this is the best time to approach this topic.
Change is one of those things in life that is inevitable. Yet, we often fight it tooth and nail. Unfortunately, no matter how hard you fight, it is going to happen anyway… So, it is best to learn how to embrace it and save yourself some stress.
Truthfully, it’s not about ‘How to deal with change’, it’s about ‘Why you must learn to deal with change‘.
And the answer to that question is a simple, albeit brutal, one…
Because you have to!
Change will happen whether you like it or not. The weather changes regularly, the area you live in, the route you take to work, the people you spend time with, the world around you. Everything changes, these days changes occur faster than ever before, and if you don’t adjust to the changes you risk being left behind.
Think about technology. The last decade has seen major advances in technology. These advancements have completely changed the way we live. There has been no avoiding these technological changes either. While some people claim they have to some degree, the truth is this change has impacted every area of life, unavoidably. The way we communicate and socialize is different, the way we get news and stay informed has changed as well. The way our children are educated has been adapted to the technological shift that has occurred around us. Even the way we watch T.V. has changed.
Changes like these are obvious and unavoidable, perhaps making them easier to deal with. When you can’t avoid or control a change you have no choice but to adapt.
The truth is, change will never be simple, it will never be comfortable, but it can be a bit easier if we allow it to be. Below are a few tips that may help you better adjust to the changes in your life. This advice will probably not save you tears when you face heartache and it will not heal wounds because there is no avoiding the way things make us feel. Hopefully though, this advice can help speed up the processes involved in various types of change by helping you to accept change more openly and trust that you are getting exactly what you need in the long run.
How (and Why) you should deal with change:
Free Your Feelings:
We feel emotions for a reason, so pay attention and let them out without fear. If you want to cry, cry. Laugh if you feel the need and talk when you must. Allowing your feelings to flow freely will help speed up the process involved in change and allow you to move forward faster. Too often these days we feel pressure to cover up how we are feeling and put on a poker face for others. This habit does nothing for your own well-being. Tell friends how you feel and what you need; chances are they will be happy to help.
Create Positive Thoughts:
Change is not going to be easier if you are constantly seeing it in a negative way. Instead, turn your negative thinking around and find the ‘silver lining’ in the situation. (It may not feel like it but it is there). Look at the big picture and assess how the change can improve your life. By creating positive images around the struggle you are facing you are opening your mind to a new point of view. This will help you accept the changes and help you use them to better your life in the end.
When you see a big change on the horizon and you are feeling scared set small goals that will move you in that direction. It is not fair to think that all change is going to move in on us gracefully. In fact, most of the big changes we face in life challenge us to our very core but that does not mean we have to run screaming for the hills (or hang on for dear life) Instead, use the approaching change as a chance to choose your own direction or in the very least what happens along the journey there.
Ditch The Denial:
One of the biggest things we do that makes change so difficult is to deny it. When we stop denying the obvious we allow ourselves to be more relaxed and open to opportunity. This is one of the hardest habits to break, but it is worth the effort. It does not take physical effort on your part but it does require you open your mind and simply let yourself, and your life, be as it is. Acknowledge the change instead of denying it and consider where it can take you.
Embrace and Trust:
Knowing that the change is coming is the first step. The last step is to embrace the change and trust that the world is giving you what you need to be a better, happier, and more fulfilled person. Once you have done this you will not feel fear the same way anymore. You may still cry, you may still want to run or fight but you will know in your heart that what is meant to be will be. Remind yourself; “If it doesn’t happen now, it will happen later” perhaps not in the same form, and it is sure to be more difficult the longer you postpone it, but one way or another change will happen. It is inevitable.
Until Next Time…
Move and Grow with the World!
What are some of the ways that you deal with the big changes in your life?
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