“Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been’.”
– John Greenleaf Whittier
Regret is something that we all experience in life and is often one of our greatest fears. It is the basis for our choices or lack thereof. It is what pushes us forward and often what holds us back. Regret, on some level, cannot be avoided. There will always be those words we wish we had said and those things that we wish we had done, but living in the moment and doing what feels right for you can help to minimize the amount of regret you end up with in life.
There are, of course, a few things that are almost guaranteed to cause regret on some level. The list below discusses five very important things that you should avoid in order to live a happier, more fulfilling life with a little less regret in the long-run.
5 Things You Are Guaranteed to Regret in Life:
Waiting for the perfect moment
When you are constantly waiting for the perfect moment to do something you will often find that moment never comes. We live with this mentality that we will be happy ‘after’ or ‘if’ but when does ‘after’ end? When does ‘if’ ever stop? When an opportunity presents itself, if it is something you truly want to do, then do it today because sometimes the perfect moment gets lost in time.
Not believing in yourself
Give yourself the credit you deserve. Know that you are strong enough to let go and worth enough to have more. One of the biggest causes of regret in life will come from settling for less than you deserve or not having the faith in yourself to go out and achieve your dreams. Life is never going to be easy and you will make mistakes but they only become regrets if you choose not to learn from them and try again.
Living someone else’s idea of your dreams
It can be difficult to admit your dreams to others. There will always be people who disagree with your ideas and goals. If you allow other people to outline your life for you then you are never going to be truly happy. Do not base your decisions on what other people want or expect from you. Do what makes you happy, do what feels right for you. Those that love you will understand.
Allowing others to affect you
Negativity breeds negativity… This is a fact. If you allow people’s negative attitudes to affect your emotions you will end up stuck in a cycle that is difficult to get out of. If there are people in your life who drain you, people who bring you down, let them go. This is not something that is easy to accomplish but it sure beats the alternative. If you live life by others rules the possible consequences are never being completely happy with yourself and having regrets because someone else is holding you back. Is that the future you want for yourself?
Hiding who you truly are behind a fictitious image
Peer pressure. It is one of those subjects that were discussed in school as a way to discourage drug use and promiscuity. Unfortunately, peer pressure is a constant battle throughout life. Too often people hide behind a mask, never showing who they truly are. Usually, this is because they fear judgment. It is not easy to stray from the crowd, to live life on your own terms, but it is more than worth it. If you hide yourself and your dreams behind a cloak because you are afraid, you are never going to accomplish the things you desire. Even worse, no one is ever going to see the true potential or the amazing person you hold within.
The examples in this list are common. They haunt many people’s lives, causing deep regret for ‘what might have been’. Although they may appear to be very different from one another, they are very similar as well. Each of the regrets above stems from people forgetting the most basic rule of happiness, you need to do what is right for you if you truly hope to be happy.
The truth is, you will never be completely free from regret but if you make your choices based on what you feel is best for yourself then you may have a little less to regret in the future and a lot more happy memories.
Until Next Time…
Live Life On Your Terms